A Review of ‘Safe People: (How to Find Relationships That Are Good For You and Avoid Those That Aren’t)’ By Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

This excellent psychology self help book, ‘Safe People,’ by Cloud and Townsend is designed to help the reader sort out those relationships that are fruitful and beneficial from those that are toxic and destructive. This very useful book details such topics as ‘What is an Unsafe Person?’ and ‘What Are Safe People?’ as well as ‘Personal Traits of Unsafe People’ and ‘Why Do I Choose Unsafe Relationships,’ ‘Why Do I Isolate Myself From People?’ and more.

This is a great book to read if you or someone you love is affected by unsafe relationships in their family or romantic life or in any area of their life. The book provides tools which can help that individual identify their toxic relationship on a very measurable level and offer ways to change the dynamic, or remove the toxic relationship from their lives. It also offers insight on why we choose these “unsafe relationships” and how to make better choices in the future.

You can read about safe people characteristics such as empathy, connection, and a feeling of equality; and unsafe attributes such as demanding trust without earning it, or apologizing rather than changing their behavior.

The reader is offered alternatives to resolve the problem of toxic relationships such as repairing or replacing them, using others to assist with life choices and confrontations and more.

I highly recommend this book to individuals who really want to know whether their relationships are healthy and what to do to make them healthy again.

 

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